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CHILD ABUSE PREVENTION MONTH
TUESDAY, APRIL 1, 2014
TYING OF BLUE RIBBONS
United Way Bldg, 50 S. French Broad Avenue
Commissioner Ellen Frost County Commission
Blue Ribbon Award to: Barbara Blake, The Asheville Citizen-Times
Presentation by CAPS Board President Leslie Hansen
THE STORY BEHIND THE BLUE RIBBON – The Blue Ribbon became the symbol of child abuse prevention when a Virginia grandmother tied a blue ribbon to the antenna of her van after her grandson was fatally abused as a signal to her community of her commitment to involve everyone in the battle against child abuse. She chose blue after seeing her grandson’s battered blue body. Her action – the action of one person – has evolved into a national campaign with millions of blue ribbons across the country every April to demonstrate a commitment to preventing child abuse and protecting all children.
Child Abuse Prevention Services, Inc
Phone: 254-2000; caps@childabusepreventionservices,org
Working to reduce/prevent child abuse, strengthen families, and assist children who have experienced abuse through personal safety education, crisis intervention/counseling, and parent education.
There is no excuse for abuse!
All kids deserve a safe, healthy childhood! Child abuse prevention is Everyone’s business!
For Release_____________________ Child Abuse Prevention Services__________________________
50 S. French Broad Avenue Contact: Bill McGuire
Asheville, NC 28801 O: 254-2000, ext 102
February 27, 2014
April Child Abuse Prevention Month
The Blue Ribbons are Back!
Tying of Blue Ribbons, April 1; Proclamations April1 and 8; Blue Ribbon Night at The Tourists April 18; Documentary Film ‘Searching for Angela Shelton’ April 22; Build-A-Bear; Vintage VW Raffle, Radio interviews/PSAs, Nonprofit partner of month at Metro Wines and more….
ASHEVILLE, NC: - Child Abuse Prevention Month will kick off with Tying of Blue Ribbons and ‘Planting’ of the Pinwheel Garden at the United Way Building/Community Service Center, 50 S. French Broad Avenue, at noon April 1. The kick off is to increase the awareness of child abuse, and prevention and treatment, and to demonstrate a community commitment to protect all children.
There will be brief remarks by Leslie Hansen, Board President of Child Abuse Prevention Services, Inc. (CAPS), and Advisory Board Member and County Commissioner Ellen Frost; and, a moment of silence for the 4,716 children reported as abused/neglected last year in Buncombe County.
“We come not to lament but to prevent, to raise awareness of child abuse and to encourage involvement in prevention, treatment, and protection of all children – our future”, said Hansen. “There is no excuse for abuse and child abuse prevention is everyone’s business.”
“When the issue of child abuse is owned by everyone and the community”, continued Hansen, “prevention will truly progress, fewer children will be at risk, and more children will have a safe, healthy life free from abuse and the opportunity to reach their potential.”
In addition to tying blue ribbons to demonstrate a commitment to preventing child abuse and supporting survivors CAPS will present the Blue Ribbon Award to Barb Blake of the Asheville Citizen-Times.
The Blue Ribbon was chosen as a symbol of child abuse prevention when Bonnie Finney, a grandmother in Virginia, took a stand against child abuse. She tied a blue ribbon on her car after her grandson was fatally abused. It was a signal to her community of her commitment to involve everyone in the battle against child abuse. She chose blue after seeing her grandson’s battered blue body. Her action, the action of one person, has evolved into a national campaign with millions of blue ribbon across the country every April.
“The numbers are staggering”, says Bill McGuire, Director of CAPS. “One in 5 children will experience abuse, half will be under 6 years old, and tragically 4 children will die every day from abuse and neglect. There are over 5 million children reported abused/neglected in the US every year, over 125,000 in NC and over 4,000 right here in Buncombe County. Abuse crosses all lines and knows no boundaries. Usually the abuser is known to the child, and often is someone who is supposed to love and protect them. Behind each of these numbers is a face, a child – our future”,
The Child Health Report Card from Action for Children and the NC Institute of Medicine has for years given the state D’s and F’s in child maltreatment stating if it were a communicable disease, child abuse and neglect would be an epidemic in North Carolina. More recently, they gave a C rating and hopefully that improvement can continue.
Hansen, president of the Board of CAPS said, “Education is the key to turning the tide against abuse. Increased awareness will result in more parents teaching their children personal safety, in true open communication, and more disclosures leading to cessation of abuse along with counseling”.
“We would love to work ourselves out of existence, but unfortunately that is not going to happen,” McGuire said. “So we will keep educating children and families to reduce and prevent abuse, and keep offering crisis intervention and counseling for those who need it. “
“Hopefully, working together, as a community and individually we can make a difference,” said Kathy Redmond, Board Vice President, “and one day all children, our most precious, yet most vulnerable asset can have a safe, healthy childhood and one day we won’t need to be here. That would be the best of all possible worlds.”
- Following the April 1 kick off, Chairman David Gantt and the Board of Commissions will proclaim April as Child Abuse Prevention Month in Buncombe at their meeting later in the day.
- On April 8 Mayor Esther Manheimer and the Asheville City Council will also do so.
- April 18 will be Blue Ribbon Night at the Asheville Tourist game. CAPS staff and volunteers will hand out blue ribbons at the gate. Before the game will they will take to the field to pin a large blue ribbon on Ted E, the Tourists’ mascot. Young Abraham and Nolan Pospishil, sons of CAPS therapist, Shannon McTeague-Pospishil will actually pin the ribbon on Ted E.
- On April 22 the documentary film “Searching for Angela Shelton” will be shown by CAPS at the United Way Building, 50 S. French Broad Avenue at 6 pm. Everyone Welcome! No charge. Shelton is an Asheville native and is a screenwriter, actress and documentary film producer. The film is her search, roaming the country seeking other Angela Sheltons, learning how many of them had also experienced child sexual abuse, confronting her father/abuser, and triumphing over the abuse. Her mother Joann Shelton will be with us at the film to deliver remarks and answer questions.
- There will be Build-A-Bear events during April with volunteers and staff building teddy bears for children who have experienced abuse.
- During April Child Abuse Prevention Month, CAPS will be presenting a new program ‘Stewards of Children’ child sexual abuse prevention training for adults to all Asheville City School counselors and social workers.
- There will also be radio interviews and PSAs; and, CAPS will be the nonprofit partner for the month at Metro Wines, 169 Charlotte St.
- There will be Blue Ribbons and literature at libraries, businesses, pediatricians, and churches.
- CAPS will be presenting Prevention/Personal Safety programs in city and county schools, providing Counseling to children/families who have experienced abuse, and providing Parent Ed.
“Child Abuse Prevention Month is all about increasing public awareness, encouraging involvement in prevention, and trying to protect and do the best that we can for all children – the future of tomorrow”, said McGuire.
Even though the numbers are staggering – 5 million children reported as abused/neglected in the U.S. last year, 125,000 in NC, and 4,716 right here in Buncombe County., the successes are many – whether it is children who learned skills to protect themselves and avoid or get out of an abusive situation, or those who raise their hand in our school-based Prevention/Personal Safety Ed. to disclose abuse and get immediate help and counseling (see attached Faces and Success Stories)”, said McGuire.
“The cost of child abuse in the US is $250 million a DAY or $95 billion a year. This translates to the equivalent of $1,500 a year per family, yet we only spend $1 a year per family on prevention in the U.S. It’s not only the cost in dollars, but the emotional cost. With the overwhelming trauma of abuse, the ability to respond effectively to daily life may be affected – boundaries may be blurred, appropriate/inappropriate behavior may be confused, and feelings may be numbed”, said Advisory Board Member Ellen Frost. “Folks who have experienced abuse many not have the luxury of thinking before acting and may live at times in the emotional center of their brains because that is what they had to do as children to survive. And, that is why the school-based prevention programs at CAPS is so important, as are all the services at DSS, as well as CAPS counseling.”
Last year CAPS educated and empowered 8,000 children with skills to protect themselves, provided adult training to 500 childcare providers, helped 500 children/families stabilize, get through the trauma of abuse and develop new coping skills through counseling and helped 200 families learn increased parenting skills.
Our “Stewards of Children” child sexual abuse prevention training for adults from Darkness 2 Light is based on ‘5 Steps to Protecting Children’: Learn the facts, Minimize opportunity and one-on-one situations, Talk about it/true open communication about bodies/boundaries, Recognize the signs of abuse, and React Responsibility regarding disclosures and reporting.
“In addition to educating/empowering children with skills to protect themselves – to avoid or get out of an abusive situation, the school-based Prevention/Personal Safety Program often results in disclosure when a young hand goes up”, said Mary Trigg, community educator with CAPS.
A third grader raised her hand in our child abuse prevention/personal safety education program at a local school, disclosed abuse so horrific that DSS and law enforcement rushed to the scene to immediately remove her from the sexually abusing parents. In essence, our prevention program became an intervention in facilitating her disclosure and led to treatment as she came to us for counseling/therapy. She is now doing well and living with her aunt.
Another child raised his hand to say his mother’s boyfriend put him in a clothes dryer and turned it on. He too is coming for counseling and doing well.
A young mother called us Christmas Eve relating she was all alone, going through a divorce, and her 6-year-old daughter who had just returned from a visit with the father told her mom that he had sexually abused her. The mother didn’t know what to do – devastated, alone on Christmas Eve. Then she recalled hearing about 211. She called them, they referred to CAPS, we talked to her Christmas Eve, set up counseling the day after Christmas, and set up a child medical evaluation (CME) at Mission Children’s Center child abuse evaluation unit.
We currently have a beautiful 5-year-old girl coming in for counseling. She drags the giant stuffed Wells Fargo pony from the waiting room to the children’s therapy room, arranges it just so, sits down then tells the therapist come sit down next to me and we’ll talk. We told Kim Plemmons, our Board Member with Wells Fargo about this and she cried. The next day we received two huge boxes – one was another Wells Fargo pony for our children’s therapy room and one was another pony for this special little girl to take home.
And, there is the 6-year-old girl who asks her mother every morning, “Do I have therapy with Miss Ilene today?” Counseling and CAPS has become such a significant, positive, and safe part of her young life.
All these children have experienced something no child should have to experience, but the hurt has stopped, the hope and healing has begun, they have found a safe place at CAPS, they are getting help, and they can now live safe, healthy lives free from abuse, and have the opportunity to reach their potential
“We are really proud of being able to see children/families who have experienced abuse within 24 to 72 hours for crisis intervention/counseling. Many agencies in other places have waiting lists, but at CAPS we believe it is crucial to see these children and their parent/caregivers quickly to help them stabilize and deal with the trauma”, said McGuire., “And to learn new coping skills to deal with the abuse, to reduce negative behavior and unhealthful beliefs related to the abuse, and improve their condition,” said therapists Melinda Kent and Shannon McTeague-Pospishil.
For information or to become a donor or supporter call 254-2000 or email: firstname.lastname@example.org. We are located at 50 S. French Broad Ave., Suite 152, Asheville, NC 28801
There is no excuse for abuse!
All kids deserve a safe, healthy childhood! Child abuse prevention is Everyone’s business!
‘Working to reduce/prevent child abuse, strengthen families, and assist children who have experienced abuse through personal safety education, crisis intervention/counseling, and parent education.’